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The more you live, the more you lose: How to deal with the loss of loved ones as you grow older Edit Title
The more you live, the more you lose: How to deal with the loss of loved ones as you grow older As you go through life and get older, you will notice that some bonds last while others fizzle away. The ones that last are the ones really mean something, which makes it even harder when you have finally let go of such a special friendship.
It’s one of those unfair things in life that we are powerless to change; a bitter pill that we have to swallow whether we like it or not.
Experiencing the death of a loved one is one of the most difficult things anyone can do, here are a few tips on how to deal with it.
You still have the right to be angry One of the first things you have to realise is that no matter how many times you have been through this and no matter how peacefully or expected your friend's death was; you still have the right to be angry. If you are a certain age, you have lived through a lot of your loved ones dying, and a very common effect of that is to be hard on yourself during the grieving process; don’t be, every loss is as profound and as important as the first one. Knowing this helps you cope and recover from the grief.
Avoid guilt If you are of a certain age, a common trap that you might fall into when you lose someone; is guilt. Either you feel a loved one younger than you didn’t deserve to pass when you have lived such a long life, or you feel guilty that you are the same age of a friend that has died. No matter what situation is relevant to you, you have to avoid this feeling, because it will only sap your energy, and waste the time you have to celebrate your loved one and enjoy your life.
Talk about it
One of the healthiest things you can do is talk to someone about your loss, especially if you have lost quite a few friends or family. Talking to someone allows you to have an outlet and will make the grieving process a lot smoother. You can talk to a professional or just another friend, but just make sure that you express yourself, and your feelings instead of bottling it up. If you vocalise all of your feelings, including the guilt and anger mentioned above, talking to someone will help you move on in a way that is both efficient and robust.
Realise that vulnerability is not a weakness It takes a lot of bravery but allowing yourself to be vulnerable means that you can deal with your loss in a very healthy way. For some reason people see crying or an outlet of emotion as a sign of weakness; they couldn’t be more wrong. The only other option is to “be strong” what then happens is you keep all of your fear, rage and pain inside and it’s only a matter of time before you explode. Come to terms with the fact that vulnerability is OK and openly accept any emotion that you may be feeling.
The tips displayed above are not problem solvers they are coping mechanisms. If you do your best to take note and put into practice some of the advice above, you will immediately notice that some of the weight that you have been carrying around becomes a little lighter. And while nothing but time can make losing a loved one bearable, the tips in this article will go a long way to making that day come a lot sooner.
Jessica Gust is a Marketing Assistant at Localpeek.co.uk- a new postcode finder. She is passionate about new marketing strategies, she is always eager to share her ideas through blogging.
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